I’d just done a PR challenge for my bakery business on Facebook. It’d gone well and I wanted to keep momentum.
Normally I’d then shy away and go back to being quiet, hidden and invisible. So I needed something to keep going. Challenge, accountability and exploring what I want to do with my business and how to do it.
My initial thought was, is your Clarity and Confidence Kickstart right for me?
It was stepping outside my safe little zone, and I’m not a 'step outside your comfort zone' type of person! Am I going to jump in enough to get anything out of it?
What surprised me was how much I got out of it in a short space of time.
It really is very focussed. And it wasn’t too big a step. It was just enough.
From week 1 to week 2, part of me would have gone ‘I can’t do this’. I expected I might just go through the motions.
But in just one week, to have had our call, built on my ideas, took action and come out the end with an actual plan. I didn’t expect that.
It gave me a mindset shift. A more positive way of thinking.
It’s funny how ideas start to reveal themselves. Drawing things from my life that already work well and bits of my personality I can bring into my business.
I got rid of all those 'shoulds'. I should be this, I should be that.
I think way too complicated, I just need to keep it simple.
Now I’m clearer, I can focus on it, embrace it and nurture it.
‘Kickstart’ is exactly what I got out of it.
The push, the start. The “here you go, get on your way, I’m holding on the back of your bike and now I’ve let go”
You’ve given me confidence and self-belief, it was a kick up the bum!
If you’re thinking about doing this, just give it a go. Matt’s very easy to talk to and work with. He challenged me but I never felt pressured.
You’ll be surprised what you can achieve.
Real impact in a short space of time.
When I first met Matt, I was in a really lost place.
I’d just left a steady job in Marketing I was unhappy with, and was dog walking for money without any real passion or direction. While I enjoyed hanging out with cute doggies in the park, I wasn’t being serious about my future. I knew I was ‘kicking the can down the road’ and something had to be done.
I’d tried some life coaching before that was more ‘templated’ but without experiencing any real success or gaining any clarity or insight.
My career had imploded and I couldn’t see any way forward. I knew things needed to change and I needed some help.
What started as a few sessions turned into a longer coaching journey that significantly transformed my life. In that time, I retrained and got a business off the ground.
Most importantly, I got to the heart of why it was so difficult to get clear on what I wanted to be happy.
I had some very deeply ingrained limiting beliefs holding me back.
I learned change (real change) takes time. It took a while to start re-programming how I thought and to approach things differently.
Especially after years of the same negative thinking patterns running on overdrive.
Matt helped me discover who I needed to BE to get where I wanted to go.
How to reframe and re-write the stories I’d been telling myself about my past and my life.
What I love so much about Matt’s approach is how open, non-judgemental and exploratory it is. While he works with you every session to develop a clear intent, I felt really listened to and safe to open up. This helped me unpack years of limiting beliefs and find the courage to move forward.
Sometimes, he really challenged me! But that was more than ok, because it often led me to transformative realisations.
He helped me see I was capable of so much more. With Matt, I learned how to fight for what I want again.
And, did I mention the sessions were fun?!
What was great about working with Matt is his fantastic sense of humour. He’s wasn’t afraid to have a laugh, which made me feel all the more comfortable. He brings a calm yet light-hearted energy to everything he does which made me look forward to every session.
Hands down I’d work with Matt again, he’s incredible!!
You’ve got me to see the best in myself and moved me forward from the place that I was. I’m not anxious at all in the way that I was before. I’ve now got the coping mechanisms. I’m able to do what I want to do and be much more in the moment.
I was in a place where it was getting to crisis point but you helped me flip that over. You’ve helped me think so much more about how the way I behave and my attitudes impact on the results I get. I was already reasonably self-aware but it’s just being able to focus on what’s within your power to change.
Working with Matt’s like unblocking a terrible traffic jam. However good your friends are, they don’t sit and ask you the right questions to get the best out of you. As long as you know that you’re prepared to dig deep and work out where your limitations might be, it’s incredibly valuable when you identify for yourself what you can practically do. It crystallises a plan of action that takes you on a more constructive path than the one you’re on.
You begin to recognise that you’re actually good because of ‘this’, instead of rubbish because of ‘that’. I now see that I’m good at loads of things and I’m the only person who can get that out there and show it to the world.
I think coaching’s a really valid process if you’re stuck. You feel like you’re getting a cleansing experience. The uncertainty and the fear of the unknown get kind of dissipated through the process.
You’ve got the adaptability and the professional background that means you can get on with and help many different sorts of people. You were incredibly patient when I had complete brain-blockages. It just made me laugh sometimes and didn’t feel contrived in any way. You’ve definitely got a knack of defusing a situation with humour and it’s natural.
Before our sessions I was doubting myself saying: ‘I won’t go for it as other people are better’. But our sessions geared me up to say ‘no, you CAN do it Lauren and it’s the next step in your career’. You made me feel stronger and believe in myself.
Our focus on my confidence at work has really helped me. I’m assertive and dive in a lot more. People have noticed I’m so much more organised, calmer and relaxed. I still have ‘moments’ but they’re far less often. I feel on top of it. I’m pushing myself because you’ve made me see that I CAN do it.
I come up with more ideas and look ahead at what’s coming up. Rather than put things off, I say to myself ‘I’m going to start that now!’.
It’s important for everyone to have a goal they can reach. To set yourself a challenge like I did, then go for it and achieve it.
It’s been good to explore. To get a better, stronger understanding of myself. You listened and came up with questions to deepen my thinking.
I was a bit worried what you might think of me at first Matt, but you’re very easy to talk to and understanding. You were really good with me, it was relaxed and I could open up quite a lot to you without feeling anxious. It was a comfortable environment where I could be very open and honest.
You’re very reliable and you were there for me as support.
It just comes naturally to you.
A big thank you.
You helped me to focus on myself and find out what I really want to do.
I feel more confident about my choices because I’ve changed the process of how I make them. I am more aware and centred.
I’ve realised that life is a day-to-day adventure whereas I was focussing on the adventure being one day in the future.
I felt very comfortable sharing, as you created a very safe space from the beginning. There was trust and confidence. I loved the fact it was so easy to talk and to be true.
Working with you had such a profound impact on me.
You guided me to make the changes myself, to get to where I needed to be. I couldn’t have done that on my own.
You really listened to every word and helped me piece it together to get a totally new perspective.
With your support, I went away from our sessions feeling empowered.
Knowing that I’m the one who can make the change.
I definitely feel a lot happier, healthier and more optimistic for the future.
A lot more confident.
I’d 100% recommend you in a heartbeat.
To use a metaphor, I’d say you helped me pull out the weeds from the garden to better plant the seeds of my next steps.
The best thing working with you was the feeling of space you gave me. I didn’t feel limited or restrained in what was coming up (and god knows it can be messy coming from my mind!).
I felt very much allowed to be myself and speak accordingly.
But you were also very able to keep a certain order in what we were exploring.
This combination between allowing and structuring gave a very adventure-oriented angle to your coaching. A feeling of paving the way to a path of alignment and courage.
I hit exactly the goal I started off with but in ways I didn’t expect.
Your genius was to bring all the opportunities to solve a problem out in front of me.
I think I always asked myself the wrong questions.
Before I used to say ‘yes’ to most relevant business opportunities but now before I say yes, I feel confident in asking myself ‘is it really the BEST opportunity and the kind of opportunity I want?’
I now quickly sort that through in my mind pretty much straight away. Which I wasn’t able to do before because I had no clarity on my priorities before speaking to you. I’m much better at saying ‘no’ for the right reasons.
I’m now in a position to move forward with lots of different options. You’ve helped me map out the detail of the direction I’m going. Properly, without fear or second guessing. I feel completely confident.
The forward thinking of it all made it such a positive experience.
I loved that in every single session you helped me hit goals and get clear answers.
That felt amazing. I’ve been able to get to this point and nothing’s gone away. The clarity you’ve given me is still there.
The other thing you did was to tap back into – ‘have you done what we’ve discussed Shannon?’ Which made me really want to do it, because I knew you were going to ask me! That accountability, it really helped.
There’s no easier way to do this coaching.
I mean, to take an hour out of your day, in your own home, at your own time schedule, to hit goals that you came up with yourself but never knew you wanted. It’s not a really big ask is it?!
It makes me laugh when people say they don’t have time to do something like this. Everyone has that time, it’s just that there are always so many endless excuses.
Excuses you have right now are just immediate problems that you need to sort out!
Matt, it’s been so good to feel the confidence and clarity that I do, I just wish I could get that across to people.
I’ve recommended you to absolutely everyone and for all different reasons.
It’s been amazing Matt. You’re great at it!
I had a block around my own value and worth. Particularly around being able to charge for things.
Really valuing my knowledge and skills.
I’ve noticed I need to set myself goals and prioritise what I’m doing. I’ve never been good at that. Now I have a plan. I say to myself 'just move towards that goal bit by bit’. That way I get a result, it feels really good and I feel more empowered.
I’ve been able to clarify what I offer and who are the people I intend to help. This is what my service is worth and to showcase that worth.
I’ve set myself into a position where I can earn more from what I do.
You’re very calm and grounded, very clear. You’re able to read quite easily between the lines, what’s being said and you see the recurring patterns with relative ease.
I’m following your example in my work.
I was in the first few months of a new job which was challenging, and just moved home.
I had my doubts how helpful coaching would be, as I’m quite self-sufficient.
I’ve gained clarity. I’ve become more confident at work and I’m taking more initiative. This means I got the best training possible at the start of my job.
I’ve had some challenging decisions, but working with you has given me the confidence to tackle them. I just have more confidence in work and generally.
As I didn't know you, I wasn't sure I'd be completely open, and was worried this would stop me getting the most out of the sessions.
But you made me feel completely comfortable. You’re a great listener and I can be totally open. Whatever is buzzing around my head, you help me think it through.
I would say it’ll be better than you think!
Even if you don't feel particularly stuck, just talking through your ideas with Matt will help you see everything in a new way and make breakthroughs.
A bit about me and the coaching sessions . . .
After 10 years in the UK, I made a career change from engineer to UX designer.
My new job is more people facing and I need to talk to a range of audiences, facilitate workshops and presentations. My communication was not at the level I wanted and I needed to improve.
I’ve never spent money on coaching.
The three things in the back of my mind were - would it be worth it, do I really need it and would I have a good working dynamic with you.
It was definitely value for money!
At first I was reluctant to adjust my communication as I thought I’d lose part of my identity. I’m naturally a funny person. I thought being professional and to the point did not allow being fun. I’d lose that side of me. Through our sessions I totally changed my mindset.
My communication has improved and I’ve maintained my personality.
Still being the same person but a new version. Thanks to what I call building the ‘New Me’, I feel empowered and more confident.
In workshops, 1-2-1s and meetings, people listen to me, I don’t feel nervous and I get results. Life has improved massively and is a lot easier.
Understanding my problems and how to solve them quickly is life changing.
A bit about Matt . . .
I liked your pragmatic approach, you’re very calm and you created a safe space. You were very honest but without being disrespectful or making me feel uncomfortable. You’re very positive, I liked that. The sessions were always fresh and dynamic.
Thanks for everything. For understanding what mood I was in, in each of our sessions. You didn’t judge.
Thank you very much Matt.